Everything sounds more sophisticated (or pretentious) if you sprinkle some foreign words on it. There is a fancy French expression “mauvais ton.” Simply put: it’s bad manners. Or behaviors that are unacceptable in certain social circles. The term originated with a dramatist in the 1700s. In 2020, people are more active on social media than in the salons. Sometimes, they seem to approach these online places without really seeming to understand that they’re dealing with other people and they end up behaving inappropriately or badly. Kelsea Ballerini, an American country pop singer and songwriter, recently experienced this.
Back in 2017, Kelsea took the second spot in a “30 Under 30” music list put together by Forbes. “The First Time,” Kelsea’s debut album, received a gold certification from the Recording Industry Association of America. Above all else, you’d think that her talent would stand out…
On November 11th, Kelsea appeared on the red carpet of the 2020 CMA Awards in a stunning strapless dress by Dolce & Gabbana. This fabulous gown was embellished with vining red roses and leafy greens. The hemline of this floor-length dress was decorated with impressive red flowers. But do you remember a hit song by Beyoncé — “Pretty Hurts?” Pretty did hurt the country singer this time.
Even though Kelsea looked gorgeous in that dress, a Twitter user asked her if she was pregnant. I think that person on some level realized that the question was inappropriate and regretted asking it because she later deleted the tweet. AOC is a prophet! “I foresee decent probability of many deleted Tweets, writings, photos in the future” she wrote in her tweet on November 6th, which was 5 days before 2020 CMA Awards. Oh, wait a second, she said that about Trump supporters, never mind.
Pregnancy questions usually show a lack of sensitivity. If a woman is pregnant, she should be able to share that on her own terms and timeline! These questions are obviously the most inappropriate, socially embarrassing, and damaging when a woman is NOT pregnant…
There is no coming back from assuming that a lady with a bloated or protruding stomach has a bun in the oven! In these types of situations, that interpretation might also be based on an unflattering angle or fit.
Kelsea Ballerini chose to respond to the nosy parker in a tweet of her own:
“I’m sure you mean well, but it’s incredibly insensitive to ask or assume if another woman is pregnant. I’m not, by the way. Just carrying around my organs.”
Instead of sinking down to a level of insensitivity, Kelsea pointed out the obvious, reminding the person that they were being impolite. She also reminded them that she’s a real person, with a real body that she’s not about to apologize for!
Pregnancy is a special time and its news is supposed to be shared with special people first. In her tweeted reply, Kelsea continued: “But if I were, I’d want to share that in my own time when I felt ready. Let’s not judge bloat levels on the internet.”
It’s not easy to be a public figure sometimes when gossip girls are firing snoopy questions at you… But country singers aren’t the only ones being asked these intrusive types of questions. One female fan, who had recently gotten married, chimed in: “People keep asking me if I’m pregnant every time I say I feel sick or act emotional. It’s tiring.”
Well, we all know the old good English expression “curiosity killed the cat”… and in this instance, it killed the tweet. Or maybe even a Twitter account.